“identifying the type of play that most resonates with who you are, so you can choose a type of player to embody”
Dr. Stuart Brown’s research came up with the following play personalities
The Collector
The Competitor
The Explorer
The Creator
The Storyteller
The Joker
The Director
The Kinesthete
Power
Experiment #1
Experiment #2
Boost your confidence
The confidence switch (positive self talk)
Social Model Method (see others do it)
Level up your skills
Shoshin Approach(beginner’s mind)
Protege Effect (teach others)
Take ownership
Own the process
Own your mindset
Social Model Method:
Albert Bandura: “Seeing people similar to oneself succeed by sustained effort raises observers’ beliefs that they too possess the capabilities to master comparable activities to succeed”
This is why everyone should be sharing their story online, their process, the whole anti-creator thing
The Protege Effect:
“Seneca said, Qui docet discit - ‘He who teaches learns’
“the people we learn from best are often the ones who are just a step ahead of us in the journey”
“You don’t need to be a guru. You can just be a guide.”
Take ownership:
Look into psychologist Edward Deci & Richard Ryan
he talks about what motivates people to do hard things
“But what makes the concept of ownership so powerful is that you can integrate it into almost any situation.”
Own the process:
“When we can’t take ownership of the situation, we can still take ownership of the process.”
Own your mindset:
“Simply switching their mindset from ‘have to’ to ‘choose to’ they boosted their sense of control, power and, in turn, what they were capable of. “
People
Experiment #1
Experiment #2
Find your scene
The comrade mindset (teamwork)
Find synchronicity (body double)
Feel the helpers high
Random acts of kindness
Ask for help
Overcommunicate
Over-communicate the good
Over-communicate the not-so-good
Unblock
Clarity
Experiment #1
Experiment #2
Ask ‘why’
Using commander’s intent
The five whys
Ask ‘what’
NICE goals
Crystal ball method
Ask ‘when’
Implementation intentions
Time blocking
“procrastination is caused by negative feelings”
“uncertainty paralysis”
“when we become overwhelmed by the unknowns or the complexity of a situation”
Using commander’s intent:
“The military generals’ detailed orders hadn’t worked. The specific plans they’d laid out went awry. But because they’d communicated their commander’s intent, everyone involved in the operation knew the purpose. The ‘why’ was clear, and that made it possible to work out an alternative ‘how’.”
NICE goals:
Near-term
Input-based
Controllable
Energizing
Crystal-ball method:
prospective hindsight
“the process of imagining that an even has already occurred - increases our ability to identify why things will go right (or wrong) by 30 per cent”
Courage
Experiment #1
Experiment #2
Know your fear
The emotional label
The identity label
Reduce your fear
The 10/10/10 rule
The confidence equation
Overcome your fear
Stop spotlighting
The batman effect
The emotional label:
“When you’re procrastinating, say to yourself, ‘What am I afraid of?‘”
“Next… ask yourself, ‘Where does this feat come from?”
Get Started
Experiment #1
Experiment #2
Reduce friction
Reduce environmental friction
Reduce emotional friction
Take action
Define the next action step
Track your progress
Support yourself
Find an accountability buddy
Forgive yourself
Define the next action step:
Tim Pychyl - Procrastination Research Group at Carleton University
Sustain
Conserve
Experiment #1
Experiment #2
Do less
The energy investment portfolio
The power of no
Resist distraction
Add friction
Correct course
Break more
Schedule your breaks
Embrace energizing distractions
The energy investment portfolio:
“The idea of the ‘energy investment portfolio’ is simple. You simply come up with two lists. List A is a list of all your dreams, hopes, and ambitions. These are things you would like to do at some point, just probably not right now. List B is a list of your active investments. These are the projects you’re actively investing energy into right now (or want to be). And by right now, I mean this week.”
“If you want to move a dream into your active investments list, you need to make sure you’ve got the time and energy to invest in it.”
Where is it on your calendar?
Recharge
Experiment #1
Experiment #2
Recharge creatively
CALM hobbies
CALM projects
Recharge naturally
Bring in nature
Take a walk
Recharge mindlessly
Let your mind wander
The Reitoff principle
CALM
Competence
Autonomy
Liberty
Mellow
Align
Experiment #1
Experiment #2
Long term
The eulogy method
The odyssey plan
Medium term
The wheel of life
The 12 month celebration
Short term
Three alignment quests
Alignment experiments
‘relative autonomy continuum’ - developed by Kennon Sheldon
External Motivation - showing off
Introjected Motivation - I’d feel guilty if i didn’t
(maybe conflict with identity?)
Identified Motivation - this’ll help me w/ goals
Intrinsic Motivation - love the work
“those who had higher levels of both introjected and identified motivation were far more likely to complete the trail” (when intrinsic motivation waned)
“the only type of extrinsic motivation that corresponded with greater happiness was identified motivation”
Medium-term:
‘values affirmation interventions’
“a scientific term for identifying your core personal values right now, and continually reflecting on them”
Alignment experiments:
How
“identify an area of your life where your actions feel particularly unfulfilling”
“come up with your hypothesis” (independent variable, and what it’ll effect)
“execute. Make a change. And as you do so, what effect it has on your situation”
“keep track of the effects. Try keeping a log or journal”